Stress Boxes

Yesterday morning I got a call from the screening midwife at the hospital and she was very nice. She rang to discuss the results letter I got on Saturday. She was going to offer us blood tests but we have had these and we don't have any chromosomal abnormalities that we could pass on to our child. She said next time I am pregnant I should give her a call and arrange a dating scan for around 8-9 weeks so that we can discuss screening options and get ready before the 12 week mark. This is because there is a slightly higher chance that we could have another baby with a chromosome problem. I would have had screening anyway because of my age but I am glad that I have the option to check things out as early as possible.

It's still all very upsetting and if I look at it without trying to be positive the stress levels instantly rise! So I have decided to put all TTC related stress into boxes and only open them and deal with them one piece at a time.

Stress Box #1: Getting Pregnant. We are 4 years into our quest for a baby. Having taken 2.5 years to get pregnant since the last miscarriage my first stress has to be getting pregnant again - nothing else matters!

Stress Box #2: Staying pregnant. I can't worry about this one until I'm pregnant! There isn't much I can do about this one anyway. I eat healthily and wouldn't drink or smoke and would do gentle or no exercise until past the first trimester. I would follow any doctors or midwife's orders and take any meds necessary. I'm still going to have loads of scans though, no matter what anyone says!

Stress Box #3:  Screening processes. I'm not even going to think about this at the moment. All I'm going to do about this is look into it when I know the baby is still alive before the scan at 8weeks.

No more boxes for now!